Monday, April 17, 2017

Poverty is…Everywhere.


POVERTY-MINDSET
http://www.alyciaskousen.com/
 Poverty is not the absence of money but the presence of the obsession to grab as much as 
one can for himself.
It respects financial wealth instead of character. 
It places the incredible above the credible.
It values fame more than faith.
Poverty is what compels a person to tell lies or half-truths about themselves, their abilities and achievements to intimidate their neighbour and look better than them. 
It drives one to compete rather than complement.
Poverty pressurises one to keep up with the Joneses.
It always strives to copy instead of being authentic.
It limits oneself or a fellow human by place of birth or status in life.
It blocks the thinking that opens up possibilities. 
https://donnapartow.com/poverty-mindset/
Poverty is that which keeps a person, an organisation or community set in their ways and unwilling to do things differently to make a change. 
It affects one’s thoughts, words and actions.
We see it at work everywhere in our world, both in Third world countries and even quite glaring in the developed countries.
It can be found in action amongst the economically prosperous, intellectually endowed and creatively talented.

Poverty is a mindset, subtle in its grip and pervasive in its reach. Poverty is…everywhere.

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Put Him First

I’ve been worried sick by different relationships in the past couple of days.
Some people in my life seemed like they were no longer there. Relationships seemed to have cooled off.
My messages were not returned and every appointment seemed impossible to meet.
My mind has been whirling with all kinds of concerns. I kept running every conversation through my mind to find where I may have made a mistake.
Did I do something? Was it something I said?
Several thoughts about the situation came and went in my mind. These thoughts flowed through my mind morning, noon and night. I woke up, lived through the day and went to bed with them.
This morning the Holy Spirit stopped me in my tracks with a question – “Why do you worry so much about your relationship with man who cannot determine the course of your life even with their best intentions? Why do you worry so much about man and leave your relationship with the Father unattended? You have not spoken to Him who holds your future in His hands nor sought His face and yet you wonder that your messages to a human remained unreturned?”
I had begun a Bible-in-a-year study and I had missed several days and I wasn’t really worried about it. Somewhere in my mind the thought was “I will get to it” and the days were piling up. I wasn’t worrying about getting to know Him better through His word but I was here dissecting every piece of communication and every moment of interaction with someone I felt was valuable to me. He who gave His all for me, just wanted a little of my time and I wasn’t bothered about giving Him any. Rather, I was hungering for this person’s call, text or message.
When last did I worry that I hadn’t spoken to ‘Him who first loved me’?
When last did I plan to spend time with Him? When last did I seek out his thought on that decision I am planning to make? When last did I worry about pleasing Him? When last did I comb through my day to make sure that I did not offend Him?  When last did I put Him first?
My foolishness is becoming very obvious and I wonder how many of us become encumbered by our relationships with humans and never give a thought to our relationship with our Loving Father.
How foolish I have been to worry about man who cannot turn God’s heart to me instead of ensuring that I was pleasing the God who has every man’s heart in His hand.

Am hoping I will live more wisely, learning to put my time and thoughts on Him instead of worrying about what man thinks, says or does.

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Everything you cost me

Loving kisses
Warm caresses
Affectionate looks
Companionable silence
Enjoyable meals
Blissful pregnancies
Pleasant labour
Joyous births
Contented motherhood
Peaceful days
Sweet sleep
Happy times
Lovely memories
My love
My heart
My past
My dreams
My passions
My health
My youth
My joys
My smile
My confidence
My Self
Freedom to be
Freedom to live
You cost me too much



Wednesday, November 30, 2016

7 Songs To Help You Reach Your Happily Ever After

In fairytales the couple always lives happily ever after and this is every bride and groom’s dream.
As you decide your colour scheme, the best venue, the right guest list, the perfect dress, the most romantic honeymoon destination, there is only one thing on your mind – setting the perfect foundation for a marriage where you’ll live happily ever after.
You believe that you’ll be together forever and this is what everyone who loves you, wishes for you.
Your dream for happily ever after with your spouse can become your reality if you commit to investing yourself in your marriage. Tips to help you fortify your union against the tests of time can be found even from the most unexpected sources. An example is music. When you least expect it, some lyrics just jump out of the blue to inspire you. Here are some song samples to help you on your way to happily ever after.
1.     "Like You'll Never See Me Again" by Alicia Keys
   "I don't wanna forget the present is a gift
    And I don't wanna take for granted the time you may have here with me
    ... Promise that you'll love me
    Love me like you'll never see me again"     
A relationship never becomes too old for affection, so never take each other for granted. Know that your being together is a gift, too precious to be treated with apathy.
2.    "Stay With You" by John Legend  
"And there will be heartaches and pains, yes it will
But through it all, we will remain

... And in the end I know that we'll find

Love so beautiful and divine
We'll be lovers for the lifetime, yeah
And I'll stay with you"

On those days of pain and hurt, focus on your happily ever after. Have and stick to only one plan – to remain committed through every challenge and celebration. 
3.     "Honey, I'm Good" by Andy Grammer
       
"I could have another but I probably should not
I've got somebody at home, and if I stay I might not leave alone

No, honey I'm good, I could have another but I probably should not

I've gotta bid you adieu and to another I will stay true"
https://goo.gl/EDkQiE
Stay true to your vows. Don’t cheat on your spouse. The fact is temptations are everywhere, but the truth is that you can determinedly refuse to fall into them. Uphold your promise to have only each other for the rest of your lives.

4.       "Stand by You" by Rachel Platten
"And love, if your wings are broken
Borrow mine so yours can open too
'Cause I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we're breaking down, we can find a way to break through
Even if we can't find heaven, I'll walk through hell with you
Love, you're not alone, 'cause I'm gonna stand by you"
https://goo.gl/3jQ7N8
Hold each other up when life tries to beat you down. WE (together) is stronger than You or Me (alone).

5.     “Broken Together” by Casting Crowns

Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete

Could we just be broken together

If you can bring your shattered dreams and I'll bring mine

Could healing still be spoken and save us

The only way we'll last forever is broken together

https://goo.gl/EAOsA0
 Alone, none of you is perfect but together you are a perfect couple. Acknowledge your  imperfections but be confident that together, your imperfect edges align perfectly. 

6.      “Ain't Too Proud To Beg” by The Temptations
"I'm not ashamed to come and plead to you baby

If pleadin' keeps you from walkin' out that door
Ain't too proud to beg, you know it sweet darlin'

Please don't leave me girl, don't you go

Ain't to proud to plead, baby, baby"

Don’t ever be too proud to say sorry. Pride has been the nemesis of many marriages, leaving shattered dreams, fragmented lives and broken homes in its wake. It is better to beg for peace and harmony than to lose your chance for happily ever after.
7.    “My Best Friend” by Tim McGraw
    
"And I don't know where I'd be
Without you here with me
Life with you makes perfect sense
You're my best friend"
 18 years of marriage has taught me that when you express your need for your spouse, your bond of intimacy is strengthened . Your spouse is your partner for life and to succeed in life, you need each other. Don’t be afraid to express your need.

Do the needful to reach your happily ever after. Let the music play! 








Saturday, July 9, 2016

THE SILENCE OF BLACK AFRICAN IMMIGRANTS

On July 5th, Alton Sterling was ‘executed’ (6 gunshots) by Police after being man-handled by them. His last words were “Please don't shoot me!” They said he had a long rap sheet and was carrying a gun on him. However, they didn't tell us he was committing any crime at the time he was killed.
On July 6th, Philando Castile was killed (5 gunshots) in front of his girlfriend and her 4-year old daughter. Philando had no Police record and was a good and upstanding citizen, a role model to many children. He even worked in a school. He also, was not committing any crime at the time he was killed.
They were not killed in self defense. In fact, they were both defenseless and in no position to harm the officers and yet they got killed.
114 Black men have been killed in the United States in the first 186 days of this year.
Many people are silent about the killings of Blacks and the injustice we suffer, but there is no silence as deafening as the one from the Black African immigrant community.
The time has come for our community organizations to be known for more than just social events.
The time has come for our community to be much more than a group of people from different African countries.
The time has come for our community organizations to be driven by a need for positive impact.
We can start by acknowledging the struggles of those who spilt their blood to pave the way for the 'freedom’ that we enjoy. We should not be missing at Black History and Emancipation Day events. 
We can start by helping new Black African immigrants to successfully navigate this terrain that we seem to have mastered.
Know that all Blacks are Black. A drop of Black blood in you makes you Black.
Know that the success of your Black neighbour is a success for all Blacks and their failure is ours as well.
Know that as long as racism continues to affect your Black brother, your ‘success’ will not protect you.
When a Black brother is killed in the US, we should shout out for justice too. That death could have been one of yours. That son that you worked so hard to train could have been the victim. Don't wait till it strikes you directly before speaking out.
When a brother is killed in the US that is an opportunity for us to come together as a community and make our voices be heard.
This is the time for our Black African Immigrant community to look beyond every pettiness and see that we are endangered species.
This is the time for us to shirk silence and embrace community engagement, advocacy and collaboration.
In the US, they kill our bodies but here in Canada, they kill our Spirits.
Our children are targeted in their schools and they are neither protected nor can they protect themselves. Instead, the educationists become enablers to the perpetrators of the injustice against them.
80% of Black families that become involved with the CAS are through the schools.
Black children are 5 times over-represented in the Foster Care system.
Black people are 4 times over-represented in the criminal justice system.
Unemployment is also high in our community.
These are issues that we should be addressing and there will be no change until we begin to do something.
In North America, we are neither African nor African-American, we are all BLACK.  Every African descendant in North America is directly affected when something happens to any single Black in North America.
If we Black African Immigrants don't speak out against the injustice our African-American brethren are experiencing, why should we complain when others don’t?



THE SILENCE OF BLACK AFRICAN IMMIGRANTS

On July 5th, Alton Sterling was ‘executed’ (6 gunshots) by Police after being man-handled by them. His last words were “Please don't shoot me!” They said he had a long rap sheet and was carrying a gun on him. However, they didn't tell us he was committing any crime at the time he was killed.
On July 6th, Philando Castile was killed (5 gunshots) in front of his girlfriend and her 4-year old daughter. Philando had no Police record and was a good and upstanding citizen, a role model to many children. He even worked in a school. He also, was not committing any crime at the time he was killed.
They were not killed in self defense. In fact, they were both defenseless and in no position to harm the officers and yet they got killed.
114 Black men have been killed in the United States in the first 186 days of this year.
Many people are silent about the killings of Blacks and the injustice we suffer, but there is no silence as deafening as the one from the Black African immigrant community.
The time has come for our community organizations to be known for more than just social events.
The time has come for our community to be much more than a group of people from different African countries.
The time has come for our community organizations to be driven by a need for positive impact.
We can start by acknowledging the struggles of those who spilt their blood to pave the way for the 'freedom’ that we enjoy. We should not be missing at Black History and Emancipation Day events. 
We can start by helping new Black African immigrants to successfully navigate this terrain that we seem to have mastered.
Know that all Blacks are Black. A drop of Black blood in you makes you Black.
Know that the success of your Black neighbour is a success for all Blacks and their failure is ours as well.
Know that as long as racism continues to affect your Black brother, your ‘success’ will not protect you.
When a Black brother is killed in the US, we should shout out for justice too. That death could have been one of yours. That son that you worked so hard to train could have been the victim. Don't wait till it strikes you directly before speaking out.
When a brother is killed in the US that is an opportunity for us to come together as a community and make our voices be heard.
This is the time for our Black African Immigrant community to look beyond every pettiness and see that we are endangered species.
This is the time for us to shirk silence and embrace community engagement, advocacy and collaboration.
In the US, they kill our bodies but here in Canada, they kill our Spirits.
Our children are targeted in their schools and they are neither protected nor can they protect themselves. Instead, the educationists become enablers to the perpetrators of the injustice against them.
80% of Black families that become involved with the CAS are through the schools.
Black children are 5 times over-represented in the Foster Care system.
Black people are 4 times over-represented in the criminal justice system.
Unemployment is also high in our community.
These are issues that we should be addressing and there will be no change until we begin to do something.
In North America, we are neither African nor African-American, we are all BLACK.  Every African descendant in North America is directly affected when something happens to any single Black in North America.
If we Black African Immigrants don't speak out against the injustice our African-American brethren are experiencing, why should we complain when others don’t?



Thursday, July 7, 2016

MEDICATED FOR THE MONEY

Medicated, dull senses, lethargic, weight gain
I look at myself and I don’t like how I look
Now I need higher doses
I can’t go on like this anymore
So I stop taking them
I’ve become a tyrant, impatient, aggressive and very sad
What is going on?! I ask
Ohhh…it’s the medication!
What do I do…?
Am stuck in the cycle? Like a hamster on a wheel
They’ve got me where they want me
But why?!...
If they know, why did they give me this?
It’s all about the money, my dear
Money for the Doctor and for the Pharma Giants
Who really cares about your well-being?

"Give it to them and we’ve got a lifetime moneymaker" they say