HOW TO GET A GOD FEARING MAN

On the December 2, 2009 episode of ‘Sharing life issues with Chaz B’, a talk show on 92.3 Inspiration FM, a Nigerian radio station, all the ladies that called in listed ‘being God fearing’ as their number one characteristic of a life partner. 

This got me thinking. Ladies want to marry a God fearing man. How do you get him? Where do you find him? 

The Bible says ‘deep calls unto the deep’, so to get a God fearing man, we need to be God fearing as well. 

You say you are but let me ask a question. What does it mean to be God fearing? 

When the Holy Books and even the world talks about the God fearing, it is talking about the people that "abide by His rules", "look to Him in need", "do His will to honor Him, because they know it’s right (good)". The New Living Translation of the Bible titles Deuteronomy 10:12 as ‘A Call to Love and Obedience’ and says “And now, Israel, what does the Lord your God require of you? He requires only that you fear the Lord your God, and live in a way that pleases him, and love him and serve him with all your heart and soul.”

One of the things that show that you are God fearing is living a life that is in total obedience to God’s word, not compromising God’s standards. You want to marry a God fearing man but he sees you lie to your family and boss at work just to spend time with him. He sees you sleep over at his place at the slightest excuse, though you make sure you both go to church together. He sees your double standards. 

You know what? We all need somebody to challenge us to improvement. You meet a guy who likes you because he thinks you are God fearing and he wants to be better at the whole ‘God fearing’ thing. So he hooks up with you and then over time, you burst his bubble because he tries you and to make him happy, you compromise. 

Sister, he does not want you to make him happy, he just wants to be assured that there are girls that can keep their words out there. He wants to see if you truly love God and can be trusted. 

Every time you give in to his demands, you disappoint him and move him further away from you and God. As time goes on, after several such interfaces with different supposedly ‘God fearing’ ladies, he decides there are none and he gets married to one of the lot and then unleashes his true self on her. 

Every time you compromise, you let him down and worse, you let God down. 

There are God fearing men out there when they meet God fearing women. 

I know this because I have seen so many women not compromise and eat the good of their man’s land. 

A very close friend of mine met her husband during her national youth service (NYSC in Nigeria). She was so into Christ and today, they are married because she kept God’s standards. He proudly talks about their courtship. How he tested her severally but she kept God’s standards. 

Because of her influence, he became a serving Christian and some years after, they wedded. Till date, over a decade after, they have true marital bliss. Yes, the type you imagine and I can tell you, some people actually live it. 

Groom yourself to live, serve and obey God and you will soon meet ‘Mr. I want to be God fearing’. When you meet him, your conduct will sharpen him to become ‘Mr. God fearing’, the one you dream about. 

Remember, the Holy Book says “Iron sharpeneth iron...” (Proverbs 27:17, KJV). Be the iron that will sharpen others and your dream will come true. You know when you seek to live God’s standards (“...seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness…”), He will meet you at the very point of your need (“… and all ‘other’ things will be added unto you.”), Mathew 6:33a, KJV. 

STRIVE TO LOVE LIKE CHRIST

Love means so much to me and I so want to be known for it. Not only do I want to be known for loving others in a Christlike manner, I would also like everyone especially those that claim to be Christians to strive to love like Christ did as well.
Loving others should not be a Sunday only event but it should be our daily lifestyle.
We should love everywhere and everyone. We should demonstrate love in our business dealings, at work, in our homes, in church, etc.
Love is tough because it exposes our weaknesses and stretches us in so many ways. Margaret Walker says "Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside."
Love is selfless, it puts others first. Robert Heinlein in "Stranger in a Strange Land" said Love is. . . "That condition whereby the happiness of another is essential to your own."
I desire to love like Christ but I know I often fall short of His standards and I constantly ask myself the question “what is love?”; I went digging and here are some of the answers I got.
 Love is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection – Google
 As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. - Wikipedia
 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, NIV
 Love seeks no cause beyond itself and no fruit; it is its own fruit, its own enjoyment. I love because I love; I love in order that I may love. - St. Bernard 1090-1153, French Theologian and Reformer
 Love is "The willful intent to serve the well being of another." - M. Scott Peck
 Love is seeing an imperfect person perfectly. - Sam Keen
 Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you. - Leo Buscaglia
 Love is friendship set on fire. - Jeremy Taylor
 "Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman
 "Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov
 Logic says everything in this world has a cause and an effect. True Love is the only feeling which is its own cause and its own effect. It is something illogical and yet above all logic. I Love her because I Love her, and I Love her so I Love her. - Prateek Kumar Singh
 Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return; no judgments, no restrictions; no limitations; no expectations! Love is expressed when you are being someone who loves someone for who they are, not who you think they should be. True love has a foundation of integrity, respect, faith and trust. Love is the force that brings about unity and harmony. – Larry James, Celebratelove.com
No matter the answers I get there is one thing I know from the experience of countless ‘lovers’ like me. Love is a decision. You have to decide to love regardless of what the other person does. This decision makes you look like a fool because you keep on loving those who act otherwise to you.
I have experienced hurt and pain, I have experienced situations where I have been cheated but my decision to keep on loving has kept me going. I have an idea of what Jesus was thinking when he said “forgive them for they know not what they are doing”. It hurts but I leave it in the hand of my father who sees and knows it all.
Love puts you on the path that pleases God so, do not stop loving. Remember, "In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." - Bill Wundram, Iowa Quad Cities Times