Saturday, August 7, 2010

HOW TO GET A GOD FEARING MAN

On the December 2, 2009 episode of ‘Sharing life issues with Chaz B’, a talk show on 92.3 Inspiration FM, a Nigerian radio station, all the ladies that called in listed ‘being God fearing’ as their number one characteristic of a life partner. 

This got me thinking. Ladies want to marry a God fearing man. How do you get him? Where do you find him? 

The Bible says ‘deep calls unto the deep’, so to get a God fearing man, we need to be God fearing as well. 

You say you are but let me ask a question. What does it mean to be God fearing? 

When the Holy Books and even the world talks about the God fearing, it is talking about the people that "abide by His rules", "look to Him in need", "do His will to honor Him, because they know it’s right (good)". The New Living Translation of the Bible titles Deuteronomy 10:12 as ‘A Call to Love and Obedience’ and says “And now, Israel, what does the Lord your God require of you? He requires only that you fear the Lord your God, and live in a way that pleases him, and love him and serve him with all your heart and soul.”

One of the things that show that you are God fearing is living a life that is in total obedience to God’s word, not compromising God’s standards. You want to marry a God fearing man but he sees you lie to your family and boss at work just to spend time with him. He sees you sleep over at his place at the slightest excuse, though you make sure you both go to church together. He sees your double standards. 

You know what? We all need somebody to challenge us to improvement. You meet a guy who likes you because he thinks you are God fearing and he wants to be better at the whole ‘God fearing’ thing. So he hooks up with you and then over time, you burst his bubble because he tries you and to make him happy, you compromise. 

Sister, he does not want you to make him happy, he just wants to be assured that there are girls that can keep their words out there. He wants to see if you truly love God and can be trusted. 

Every time you give in to his demands, you disappoint him and move him further away from you and God. As time goes on, after several such interfaces with different supposedly ‘God fearing’ ladies, he decides there are none and he gets married to one of the lot and then unleashes his true self on her. 

Every time you compromise, you let him down and worse, you let God down. 

There are God fearing men out there when they meet God fearing women. 

I know this because I have seen so many women not compromise and eat the good of their man’s land. 

A very close friend of mine met her husband during her national youth service (NYSC in Nigeria). She was so into Christ and today, they are married because she kept God’s standards. He proudly talks about their courtship. How he tested her severally but she kept God’s standards. 

Because of her influence, he became a serving Christian and some years after, they wedded. Till date, over a decade after, they have true marital bliss. Yes, the type you imagine and I can tell you, some people actually live it. 

Groom yourself to live, serve and obey God and you will soon meet ‘Mr. I want to be God fearing’. When you meet him, your conduct will sharpen him to become ‘Mr. God fearing’, the one you dream about. 

Remember, the Holy Book says “Iron sharpeneth iron...” (Proverbs 27:17, KJV). Be the iron that will sharpen others and your dream will come true. You know when you seek to live God’s standards (“...seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness…”), He will meet you at the very point of your need (“… and all ‘other’ things will be added unto you.”), Mathew 6:33a, KJV. 

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