Back in the days, sex used to be something done behind
closed doors. Something people spoke about in hushed tones. Back then, men who
kiss and tell were vilified and categorized as immature. But the women in that
relationship bore the brunt of the humiliation.
In recent times, there has been some changes, men who kiss
and tell are no longer viewed as immature but as conquerors but one thing
remains the same, the women still bear the brunt of the humiliation.
I remember the story of a girl in Surulere Nigeria whose
boyfriend, no, ex-bedmate, circulated a video of both of them in the act. The poor
girl was so humiliated, she had to move out of the area but the story never
stopped being shared on social media and by word of mouth. Nobody condemned the
guy, only the girl got all the scorn.
Why would a man share the intimate details of his sexual
escapades with a woman he professed affection for? The only reason I can find
is, so that he can destroy her self esteem and ruin her life.
Kim Kardashian changed all that. She held her head up and
instead of cowering in shame, she cashed in on it.
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She rose from the ashes of a sex tape and became a multi
millionaire. I would liken Kim’s story to that of Joseph in Portiphar’s house
who went to prison on trumped up charges only to be released to become prime
minister.
However, her rise was not quite as supernatural but she has
continued to leave her critics with a bitter taste in their mouths as she walks
upon the high places of this world in spite of their ire.
Today, people still insult Kim with her past but she still
walks with her head high. What she gave the man alone to view, she’s now being
paid to share everywhere. And since so many have seen her naked body I guess
there’s no need to hide it anymore. Some people asked “How will baby North feel
when she grows up and sees Kim’s cover with Paper Magazine?” I say if she didn’t do that cover, her haters still
have the sex tape hanging around to show North when she’s old enough. With this
cover and the others that came or will come after, she is now in a better
position to tell North her reasons for showing her body.
Kim’s example should motivate every girl whose life has been
defined by the men she’s been with, to pick herself up and turn her situation
around.
Did you sleep with a coward who kissed and told and now
everyone calls you a slut? Were you raped or deceived into sex that left you
pregnant and abandoned? Wipe your tears girl, you are not finished. You’ve
still got a lot to offer the world.
Look at Kim and tell yourself “If Kim can turn a man’s plan
to debase her for sharing her love and body with him into a money maker, so can
I.”
Don’t let shamers snuff out your light. Look inside yourself
and you’ll see, you’ve still got something our world needs.
