Monday, October 6, 2025

Yes, I am Fat


This poem is for my sister who is blessed with an abundance of fleshly endowments. It is for my friend who is adorned with the embellishments of surplus. For that woman whose fashion finds live in the plus section. You are beautiful. You are special. You are valuable.


I am fat. Yes, that's what I am.

Please don't try to talk me out of it

I saw myself this morning

Yes am fat, and it's okay

I am fat and it shows on me. You can see it in...

the opulence of my body mass

my body's expansive surface area

them thick thighs, love handles and voluptuous curves

I am fat and the reasons may be varied. It could be because...

I inherited the genes

the medications prescribed by doctors "added" to me

life’s curve balls taught my hormones to wrap me in bodily comfort 

Whatever my reason, this fat doesn't make me less. It doesn't...

reduce my intelligence, empathy or humanity 

break down my spirit unless you try to

make me undeserving of love, kindness or care

My fat is a body composition not incompetence. It doesn't mean am...

lazy

a glutton

dirty

You will say I shouldn’t say that, but please…

don't demonize the word

don't feel sorry for me

don’t try to "comfort" me

Fat is just another adjective that I choose to own positively. So when you say fat...

don’t be ashamed

say it with respect, loud and clear

say it and see me – alive, whole and valuable

Yes, I am fat.

Friday, September 19, 2025

For the Mother That’s Not Loved by the Father of Her Children.

For the mother that’s not loved by the father of her children.

You know yourself. You know your situation. And the Lord knows too, and this is His Word for you.

You have been shown and been told that you’re not loved by the father of your children. This may have nothing to do with anything that you did or have not done, but this is the situation that you’ve found yourself and it hurts. To make matters harder, you share children with this man and the research out there about such situations is scary.

Yes, you know that the research says that children who grow up in homes where the father is absent, are more likely to struggle with depression, anxiety, or schooling. Studies even show that when a father is physically present but emotionally absent, they can leave wounds just as deep as one who isn’t there at all.

When you look at your children and then look at what you’re going through with their father, you worry. You may even be seeing some behaviours from them that make you worry whether your children are already a statistic. And you are terrified about their future.

But our God is an awesome God and He turns scientific studies on their head.

Look at the story of Leah.

The Bible records that right from the get-go, Leah was not loved and she knew it. But the Bible tells us that because God saw that she was not loved, He opened her womb, He gave her capabilities that her rival did not have. Also, from among the children of Leah, the woman that was not loved, God established the lineage of the one that saved us - the lineage of Jesus, the Savior of the world.

He also did this in the story of Haggai. She was not loved. In fact, she was used, abused and thrown out. But the Lord established the lineage of her son Ishmael.

In Leah and Haggai’s story, we see that God knows and sees women in such situations. In fact, Haggai was the one that first called God, El Roi - the God that sees me, in the bible.

So if you are a woman who knows what it is to be unloved and emotionally abandoned, and you are worried about your children’s outcomes, please hear this: the statistics do not get the final say. Social workers do not get the final say. Psychologists and therapists do not get the final say. Your God does.

Your children may even be grappling with challenges from this situation already, but know that God can still step in. In fact, He will definitely step in.

Yes, the world’s numbers say your children are at risk. But the Word of God says your children are blessed. The world’s reports predict brokenness. God’s Word declares restoration. Where man’s absence leaves a wound, God’s presence brings healing.

You may also be living with the guilt of having put yourself and your children in this situation by not leaving. But you also know that the situation you’ve found yourself is so complicated by various realities that you only have the emotional bandwidth to do what you can where you are at this time.

Your God sees you. Even if your mistakes led you here, He will not abandon you. That is His promise in Romans 8:38, nothing can separate you from His love.

Take your eyes off the man who does not love you and focus your thought and mind on the God who does. He is writing a story for you and your children that no study, no statistic, and no physically or emotional absent father can destroy. It is well with you and your children.

In Jesus Mighty Name. Amen.